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Jude has been home 8 weeks.

I have been back to work for 2 weeks.

Welcome to reality.

Jude is doing great. I feel like I am just barely surviving somedays. Whatever great plans I had for making sure that work didn’t go to hell in a handcart while I was gone went oh-so-horribly-wrong while I was gone. It probably would have been less work if the building burnt down and to come back to a pile of ashes. I’m totally serious.

We go into survival mode Sunday evenings and emerge Friday evenings. During that time our time home gets Triaged. I get to make dinner. Get lunches made for the next day. Clean the cat box. And Jude gets a bath and a bedtime story. If (IF) there is extra time I might be able to do a load of laundry or swap out a load of dishes in the dishwasher. If I get super lucky I might be able to read my mail. One night I had enought leftover time to eat a Chocoalte chip cookie before going to bed. I have learned that at least until Jude is older I won’t ever be able to blog or watch a movie on a work night. IT JUST AIN’T GONNA HAPPEN. Whatever. On the upside I will be able to save money by downsizing my netflix subscription. I know it will get better. Everything’s an adjustment.

But Jude is doing GREAT. When I am at work she spends the days with my Mum and she absolutely adores her Grammy Kitty. Jude has now gained 3.5 inches and 2 pounds since pickup. She has a regular English vocabulary of around 50 words and uses an additional 50-75 words occasionally. Her speech has come so far that after November she will no longer require Speech therapy. Over the next 2 weeks we will find out if she will be able to graduate from Physical Therapy and Occupational Therapy in November too. On September 2nd Jude will go in for the sedated MRI of her brain so we can get an answer once an for all about what is going on in that tiny but busy cranium of hers.

I am super excited to see Jude grow in other ways I hadn’t expected to see so soon after her adoption. Just in the past few weeks we have seen the buddings of Jude’s IMAGINATION. Yes. This is a little hard to explain, but when I first picked up Jude she only had a very basic understanding of how to play with toys. She wouldn’t expand on their obvious intended functions. Rather rapidly over the past 2 weeks Jude has starting engaging more with the open-ended toys in the house and especially at bath or when playing in the water will chatter along to the toys, talking to herself. Something she had not done previously. She also likes to tuck dolls and stuffed animals into bed and nurture them. She tries to feed them. Jude is also taking an interest in picture books. When I do not read them to her, she will look at the pictures and again chatter to herself, making up her own stories it seems. She is even trying to sing. Specifically “Twinkle, Twinkle, little star.”

I am sometimes asked “What isn’t going well?” Truthfully? Sleeping. Jude doesn’t sleep well at night. We we warned of this issue on trip 1. I was prepared. It was massively draining on Pickup trip as I had to adust to her waking 2-6 times a night. It was totally fine to have this sleep schedule during maternity leave I was still tired; but now I am really tired. The lifesaver has been cosleeping. Without which Jude waking up would turin from a 30-60 second sleep interuption into a who-nows-how -long screaming and crying session. It also takes her 60-90 minutes to fall asleep at night. Every. Single. Night.
What else isn’t going well? Potty training. In fact it is a total no-go. Jude was allegedly begining potty training on trip 1 and in the midst of it on trip 2. Yeah. No. Just no. She throws a massive fit anywhere near the toilet. It took weeks just to get her to voluntarily walk into the bathroom. She now thinks flushing the toilet is fun, but absolutely refuses to go any further.

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  1. Welcome to single motherhood! I find it still a challenge to get just the bills paid.
    The potty training will come so do not worry about that and the sleep well routine is the best and if necessary you can ask the pediatrician about herbal melatonin.
    Single mothers need our sleep.

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